what we love about the hate in marriage

Yes you can’t live with them but can’t live without them too.

I am growing to love the ups and downs of marriage.

It’s just my career need to sort out now. 

I will entertain you with my journey to a job interview in tomorrow’s blog post.

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Blurry Mummy syndrome

Our heads are in a spin. Just had a on offer accepted on a house to be closer to hubby’s work then he gets an invite for a job interview for a job closer to our current address but with more pay! Whats that saying that when you make plans God laughs?

I, on the other hand need to move so that I can have a better chance of getting to the jobs I woud really like (e.g. within reasonable travel distance of London). Funny thing is hubby’s interview is with the organisation I am currently working at (and am not happy there – but its a completely different department so should hopefully be refreshingly different).

Meanwhile our children are carrying on with their lives while their Mum and Dad scratch heads and figure out exactly how the next 20 years is going to pan out.

No rash decisions permitted when children are involved thats for sure.

I only wish I could be with them full-time. I have been out and about so much with work and other commitments that baby boy asked me tonight, after I put him to bed, whether I was going to ‘jump into a car’. At the moment his Mum is a blur…..

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Corbyn – so far do good

Labour doing good so far with these headline hitters – keep up the good work Corbyn….

Labour: Build 100,000 new council homes

The Government should be exposed for their five years of failure in addressing Yorkshire’s housing crisis, Labour’s new shadow housing minister has said. John Healey, MP for Wentworth and Dearne, said that the Conservatives had floundered on homes promises which will leave two generations in need. Mr Healey argues that “it is possible over the next five years to build more than 100,000 council and housing association homes by 2020.” He has calculated that over the next five years government spending on housing benefit is forecast to be £120bn, almost £50bn of which goes to private landlords. But investment in grants for building new affordable homes over the next five years will be little more than £5bn.

The Guardian, Pages: 15, 28 Yorkshire Post, Page: 4




Corbyn wants history curriculum overhaul

The school curriculum should be re-written so children are taught more about the history of trade unions and how people around the world suffered because of the spread of the British Empire, Jeremy Corbyn has demanded. Mr Corbyn said it was important children heard about how “ordinary people” had challenged the establishment and formed the Labour party and trade unions. Tory MP Andrew Bridgen dismissed the idea: “This just shows that he is a dangerous man and how the Labour party should not be allowed to touch our children’s education.”

The Times, Page: 7 The Daily Telegraph, Page: 5 Daily Mail, Page: 8


Renationalise railways – Shadow Transport Minister

Labour would renationalise the country’s railways one franchise at a time, the new shadow transport minister Lilian Greenwood has pledged. Ms Greenwood said she wanted to see the return of each franchise to the public and would fight against any privatisation plans for Network Rail.

Yorkshire Post, Page: 4

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Brits on their bike

I am working on a project at the moment for work that aims to get people outo there of their cars so that the town centre is more welcoming for cyclists and pedestrians. 

In the UK, it is a psychological and cultural barrier to overcome.

I am re-blogging this fascinating feature about the Dutch town of Utrecht  – where the bicycle and cyclist safety is respected…….

Utrecht – a city that has been designed for cycling and mass mobility

I remember David Arditti once describing the experience of viewing pictures of Dutch cycling infrastructure, while sitting in a British conference a few years ago, as like seeing scenes beamed back from another planet – such was the difference between the road- and streetscape that we were seeing on the projection screen, and the familiar British roads and [https://aseasyasridingabike.wordpress.com/2015/09/16/utrecht-a-city-that-has-been-designed-for-cycling-and-mass-mobility/

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Carbon collection, housing and phonics 

Interesting reports in the papers this week about renewable energy, housing associations and the success of phonics education in London…..

Firm abandons carbon captureThe firm that runs Britain’s largest power station is to abandon plans for a £1bn carbon capture-and-storage scheme. Drax says “critical reversals” on renewable energy by the Government have made “a severe impact” on its profitability. Board member Peter Emery added: “We’ve also got concerns about the Government’s future support for the low carbon agenda and that’s left us in a position where we are no longer confident we can persuade our shareholders that this is an attractive investment, given the obvious risks.” Financial Times, Page: 1 The Independent, Page: 57

The Guardian’s Jane Dudman looks at the annual conference of the National Housing Federation and ponders how much longer many housing associations can survive as they face shrinking government subsidies and welfare cuts. A reduction of the benefit cap from £26,000 to £20,000 has increased the financial risk of providing homes for families on welfare, according to Dudman. Notting Hill Housing chief executive Kate Davies claims that many of her staff will fail to adapt to a more commercial approach as many council house tenants opt to purchase their homes.  The Guardian  

London boroughs lead phonics passes

New figures show that nine of the 10 local authorities in which the most six-year-olds passed the government’s phonics reading test this year are in London. The top performing local authority was Richmond-upon-Thames, where 86.5% of six-year-olds made the grade, followed by the London boroughs of Kensington and Chelsea, Lewisham, Wandsworth, Newham, Greenwich, Harrow, Bromley and Bexley. Darlington was the only non-London borough in the top 10, on 82.3%. By contrast, BBC News notes that only 69.5% of six-year-olds met the standard in Nottingham, the worst performing council, followed by Peterborough, Wakefield, Doncaster, Derby, Liverpool, Bury, Oldham, Middlesbrough and Tameside. Across England, 490,000 (77%) pupils met the required standard, up 120,000 on 2012, when the tests began. BBC News
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It’s not easy being human

My post re-blogging a fab article about the concept ‘busy’ and people too busy and using the excuse of being busy highlighted the fact that many of us are busy doing things that are pointless. If there was only 5 more days til world’s end would your day job still be important – even Doctors would struggle to answer positive to that one, NASA, on the other hand might be in with a chance. What I am getting it as that most of us are busy trying not to dwell on the fact that our work is essentially pointless for mankind and the world. Give yourself a pat on the back if you feel you genuinely contribute to a person or the earth’s wellbeing.

So you spend most of your time doing this pointless s*** when you really want to be spending time with your children or going for a spot of fishing – neither of which pay the goddamn bills we need to pay in order to exist. 

Then you have people fleeing their war torn oppressive countries who are just thankful to be out of that situation and following a path they hope leads to more hope. 

I’m not sure what the answer is for all of us. I think humanity has come a long way in 100 years or has it just become more divided……? 

We still have a long way to go til we finally figure it out.

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A police eye view of young sex and violence

Fascinating insight into policing today’s streets and observations of young people’s exposure to sex and violence.

See the reblog – The Loss of Innocence……

Sex & Violence. Two things that have been on my mind for the last few days. And I need to talk about both of them. Last week, I read a brilliant and important article by Grace Dent – about the impact of internet porn on young lives. And it troubled me. You can find it […]

Dare I say I was not shocked by this….

I think this has been the case for quite a few decades as a result of a failure to tackle misogynistic attitudes in our society – they do appear to have snowballed in the last decade however. The onus is on women to push back at sexist comments, jokes and inappropriate behaviour for the benefit of the next generation. 

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Busy bullshit

My daughter came back from School today miffed that once again she lost a chance to be on School Council. Since reception this has been a goal – she is now in a Year 5. In previous years the children have voted for two council reps per class, but because the boys are popular – boys vote for boys and girls vote for boys….it has always been boys rather than girls that have got the top spot (and we wonder why it’s been a struggle to get a woman in the PM role since Thatcher and the US are even more behind than that..).

Anyway aside from the fundamental girl’s Lib issue, this year the new teacher decide to vote for her own student council reps. Unfortunately my daughter was on the wrong side of the teacher’s sense of humour when the teacher said – ‘you will be OK if you don’t mention kidnapping babies’….so my daughter says ‘kidnapping babies’ – she was immediately lumped onto the school political cast-off pile. 

With every generation you hope things will progress but it appears often the same old mistakes are repeated. The younger generation witnessing the same balls up.

What they have that we thirty somethings didn’t have as children of the 80s was this constant busyness, extra-curricular activities and so on. We are now ultra busy parents too busy to help out with the lives of our busy children. It’s what I would call ‘busy bullshit’ and this blog in The New York Times sums it up beautifully The ‘Busy’ Trap – The New York Times

The ‘Busy’ Trap – The New York Times

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The day I nearly lost my child

One of the liberating things about this blog is that it is anonymous. I see it as my psychological punch bag – just to get things out in the open and with the freedom to do so. Some of my blog posts reveal things I haven’t even told friends and family.

Like today – the day I nearly lost my child because of one silly mistake. 

I never judged the McCann’s over their decision to have dinner away from their room checking regularly if the children were still sleeping. There are times when, as parents, we don’t think through a decision only to regret that lack of depth in the thinking process much later.

I pulled up alongside a busy road to pop into a shop two doors down from my parking space to get dog food. It was non urgent but necessary. The dogs were in the boot of the car and my son was asleep in his car seat. So I thought I would just quickly pop out, grab the food and come out again. I didn’t lock the car as I knew the dogs would move and set the alarm off. Baby boy was strapped into his car seat and he was fast asleep and I would only be 5 mins tops anyway.

What a stupid f**** thing to do.

It took me longer than expected to find the right brand of dog food, plus get some dog treats – I was in there for about 8 minutes. As I got to the till it suddenly dawned on me that anyone could just open my car and help themselves to my son. My dogs were in the car too so would bark but even so, why take the risk?

As I left the shop I thought my worst fear had been realised. My son’s car door was wide open and my body went into turmoil at the sight of it. As I got to the car I realised he wasn’t in his car seat yet the door was wide open and traffic was flying past.
He was standing on my seat in the front playing with the sun visors.

I sat him down and then explained to him why he mustn’t unbuckle himself from the car seat, particularly if Mummy isn’t there. He realised how concerned I was and this made him upset but inside I was cursing myself. I also thanked the unknown entity that ensured my disastrous mistake did not end in tragedy. As I started to think of the scenarios – my son opening the door and just wandering on to the road  – it made me feel physically sick. 

And all because I needed to buy dog food.

I have never felt so bad about myself as a I did today. It certainly gave me the reality check to never put my son at risk again.

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