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Tonight,I have an axe to grind on inequality.
My husband and I have been happily married for 10 years. In that time, we have had one major argument that nearly broke us and it was in that period when I was a full-time housewife and he was a full-time ‘breadwinner’. I was as busy as him but in a different way. Because I wanted to do other things in addition to childcare (such as volunteering and sport) my husband felt I was better off working if I had time on my hands to be able to do those things. But I was between a rock and a hard place because I couldnt afford to work because of childcare costs. I was forced into this position through being a mother (which I loved) and being a woman. Once my first born went to school I went straight back to full-time work. Until then, every time my hubby returned from work, I felt like I should be standing to attention at the front door read to report on what I had been doing that day. It was hideous and made me feel very small – we were not equal.
Now with my second child, I have been forced to give up work again because of childcare costs and he has returned to the role of hunter, gatherer and……..nag. We are rowing every other night because he wants to know what I have been doing with my time. Anything remotely ‘lady of leisure’ as he puts it is frowned upon (having a couple of hours ride on a friends horse while my son is at nursery). No, I should be spending every minute of the day working, doing chores and being a housewife. I do, i just want a couple of hours off thats all.
I went for a job that earned a good wage but he was going to have to take a step back from his career if I did it. So I didnt proceed with the interview.
Being a woman is the hardest role of all wherever you are in the world regardless of ethnicity or social status.
Because women have not been on equal status with men since the dawn of time and we keep on ‘sucking it up’.
This blog is for Unicef -thanks for reading.